When you're going through a tough time discerning reality from mirages, sometimes all you want is someone who will tell you what to do. I'm talking about that fog where you're completely lost, you think you've maybe wandered in circles for the last decade, and you've accumulated this mental list of people whose advice you can't trust anymore. Maybe you’ve outgrown your peers, whatever, it's just you left. Even after doing all the spiritual exercises you know and prayed all the prayers you know, you can't discern your own internal wisdom and you want to run and cling onto one of those people who are confident, assertive, and who can speak from their gut-- and expertise!-- about what to do. I remember asking a Virgo if she really wanted to be working under someone all her life, fulfilling someone else’s orders, and she cried, “Oh all I WANT is someone to tell me what to do!”
I think Carl Jung might call this projecting our gold onto others- for whatever reason, we're unwilling or unable to access our own wisdom and believe it's somewhere outside us in a more put-together person. Well if you're really, sincerely unable, I say go for it. Project away. Mindfully.
Go ahead and call someone who’s earned your trust. But! In order to have a chance at staying grounded in yourself and not take everything as gospel handed down from God himself, it's good to know the personality type of the person who's advising you. That way, if you know what their blind spots are, you can kind of get a sense of when something can be dismissed and when something has merit.
Knowing the Enneagram levels the playing field so we're not taken in by someone else's unconscious ego script. The Enneagram is good insurance against getting bullshitted… as long as we've also got a practice of staying grounded in our bodies. We don’t want to suspend our judgement and start drinking cyanide-laced kool-aid or anything, but a temporary, mindful suspension to get unstuck can be helpful.
Worst case scenario, we get wrong advice, but getting a kick in the pants from an eight, or having our heart opened by a gentle two, or having a six point out the red flags in a scheme can still be super helpful and help us in ways we wouldn't have been if we hadn't reached out.