When Bullies Try to Get Attention, Become Present in the Body

  Donald Trump .  Image from CBS News.

Donald Trump.  Image from CBS News.

Today's NYT headliner is that the GOP is worried that Donald Trump's comments about women will hurt their votes at election time.  I'm always surprised when I find the NYT reporting on Trump because I think most people are fed up with him (although everyone is still trying to determine who all supports him), but I guess he provides good ratings and sells newspapers.  

Initially, I was really getting worked up about Trump and writing angry and mean tweets and posts about him, but now I'm going to try another approach- because obviously being mean isn't going to help me or him. 

My new approach will be watching the anger rise in me so I don't return below-the-belt hit for below-the-belt hit, but stay centered.  This doesn't mean not get angry- it just means staying with myself.  This idea of Trump as a political leader still needs to be relegated to the dark and dusty annals of history books, but as we know about reactions- they tend to set off larger and larger ones.  Here's what I wrote in the comments section about that for the NYT on the article today.

In the Buddhist practice of mindfulness, we learn to pay attention to our breathing when provoked.  Trump, for whatever reason, has great trouble being present, so when he does something provocative, I suggest we all take a deep breath, sense into the tenseness in our feet, the heat in our faces, the tightening of the gut, our rapidly-increasing heart rate, the tightening of our hands into a fist, the veins popping out in our necks.  By doing this, we stay centered within our bodies instead of "leaving ourselves" to be distracted by what he's doing. 

People with this personality type tend to create a centerfuge of attention where they're at the centre, and America doesn't need that at this time.  It doesn't mean we need to ignore him, but when we react to his reactions, it feeds his fire like air.   When we are able to stay present ourselves, he will be forced to come up with another approach.  As the story says, he only grows stronger when people lash out at him, but presence begets presence.