As I said yesterday, a couple people I know are seeing a lot of strange and serendipitous signs everywhere and wondering what it all means and when it’s finally going to come to a head. I was surprised to read the other day that Carl Jung himself was plagued by dreams and serendipitous experiences near the beginning of his career that actually
There's a full moon on Sept 24, and we often have elaborate/ fantastical/poignant dreams around full moons. Make sure you stay in bed a little longer than usual if you can, and try and remember what you dreamed. I like to look up the meanings of my dreams in the Dream Moods app, but while I appreciate and value its guidance, and
I was talking to someone yesterday about different exercises we can do to get to the core of our pain to release it, and as soon as I got off the phone, I opened a Carl Jung book and curiously, turned to an exercise he did that was quite similar. My coach used to get me
This past June, I stumbled upon a wise and intelligent astrologer named Ernst Wilhelm on the internet, and I watched his youtube videos voraciously in any spare minute that I had while getting ready for work and during my lunch hour. He gives a fascinating talk on omens (below) that opened my eyes to
The state of Ohio is home to an important and mysterious snake effigy that archeologists have said is "arguably the most recognizable icon of ancient America." Built by the Indigenous people of North America, the 1300-foot long undulating serpent has been declared "the largest survivng effigy mound from the pre-historic era" and National Geographic listed it as a "Great Wonder of the Ancient World".
In my research for this blog post, I also
Carl Jung associated his archetype of the trickster with the Fool in Tarot, although I don't understand how they saw the two archetypes corresponding.
Remember when people used to post ads in newspapers for significant others?
SWF looking for male 5"5 or taller, must be nice, like to laugh, do fun things, meet new people. 555-5555.
My dad saw an ad like that decades ago and said, "What does that word 'nice' even mean? How vague. How
This article on favorite children from the New York Times resurfaced in time for Father's Day yesterday. It's interesting, and reassuring just to know it's a universal problem. One commenter named Dave from Omaha had a sad story,
As children, we 5 siblings, 4 boys and one girl, got along famously. I can count the fights between us on one hand in our entire childhood. The favoritism to the oldest, a boy, was accepted and largely unquestioned. His post-high school education was funded 100%. Books, tuition, room, board, car and spending money. When I attended college I was given not one red cent. Others experienced the same. He was taken into the family business and made wealthy. He worked hard, but he had opportunities not given the others. Dad died last year and it came to be known that the oldest will benefit from the estate far more than the others. To the tune of millions vs. a few tens of thousands. That was the last straw. Each of the five have gone their separate ways and we can't be considered a family any longer in any more than name only. Favoritism unchecked will destroy a family. I know.
One commenter said she wished the article provided helpful tips into what to do if you're not the favorite. I agreed- the article didn't provide any insight into how to heal from not being the preferred sibling, so I replied to her. Here's what I wrote.
I wish the author had consulted a Jungian therapist for her article. I think what Carl Jung would say is that children are manifestations of their parents' owned and disowned qualities of their psychic structure. Some of our children, we can project our desired qualities onto successfully (ie. they don't bounce back in our face and remind us of how awful we are)- these are our favorite children; whereas some of them we cast our shadow selves onto- these are the unowned qualities that we think are bad or out of control and are having trouble integrating- the children that receive these projections are the black sheep, the scapegoats for our unprocessed unconscious material. I'm not totally doing Jung justice here, but you get the jist. When we haven't been favorited by our parents, we have to recognize that we're the bearer of our parents' shadows- it's not personal, and with enough growth and maturity, we become the parents of our parents, helping them access those unintegrated qualities safely and in love. But who the hell lives long enough, has the inclination, or starts their healing journey soon enough to get to that point? Most of us, if we're lucky, will only have enough time on this earth to process the gut wrenching pain of being the neglected child and learn to parent ourselves. And we parent ourselves through meditation.
So what do I mean by that. When you're not the favorite child, your essential qualities haven't been mirrored back to you very well, meaning you haven't felt "seen" for who you are. In neurobiology, they would say that our mirror neurons haven't been attuned to by our parents' mirror neurons, without which, we don't have the all-important emotional resonance we need from them, out of which a sense of safe attachment is derived.
Fortunately for these children, the intrapersonal attunement we achieve between our own minds and our nervous system during meditation has the same healing effect on us as if we were being resonated with by our parents. In other words, it's been scientifically proven that compassionate self-observation through meditation offers the same soothing effect on our mirror neurons that are craving resonance as you would have if you had had better interpersonal attunement with your parents. In this sense, these children are able to provide the parenting to themselves that they never received as children.
Where I read this latter neurobiology stuff is in Dr. Daniel Siegel's book The Mindful Brain. If you want to know more about the technical details of how meditation has the same effect on our brains as being mirrored by a parent, check it out.
Every religion or spirituality has their own unique way of describing inner phenomena. They're coming at it from a different narrative, but they're really describing the same thing. When I was a Christian, I read My Utmost for His Highest by Oswald Chambers, and I remember one devotional very clearly- it said something like "When you fail a test that God gives you, He cycles you
This summer, my landlady needed a cleaning agent to kill some pests, and I knew I had exactly what she needed, although it was nowhere to be found in any of my likely storage places. A few days after I'd promised her I could help her, I decided "what could it hurt if I asked my tarot cards?" I did a three-card reading and the answer I got was that it was "behind [or after] addictive substances." I don't have any addictive substances amongst my possessions- illegal anyways- but the closest I could think of was wine bottles, so I went to the storage room and checked at the back of a shelf behind some bottles, and voila- there it was.
Two days ago, I read an article on Fortune Magazine about how more and more executives are turning to psychics, astrologers, and tarot card readers to make important business decisions. From the perspective of the service provider, this is a good business to be in if you know your shit. Some of them charge up to 800$ an hour to give their clients insight into their competitions' business. I have worked with three astrologers- one of them studied with Carl Jung's daughter, and she charges 400$ CDN for 80 minutes. Most of her clients are executives, as she inadvertently revealed in a huff of impatience with me one session. She can afford to be picky; she books a year in advance, and she expresses a certain displeasure with you if you don't take the opportunities that she tells you about. Mr. M and I were referred to her by a former Pepsi exec and Fortune 500 VP that we met at a workshop. He'd used her to get through a divorce and found her to be extremely helpful.
Through experience, I have learned to take my horoscopes with a healthy dose of salt and rely more on personalized readings from astrologers who are actually reading my chart. I do really like one website, though, for their horoscopes: astrolis.com. One day this past May, after having read their horoscopes for a good year, I decided to click on the "tarot" section, wondering what baloney they were going to try and feed me, and when I clicked on the three cards, three cartooney pictures were revealed. I read the descriptions beside the pictures, and the sentiments in the card mirrored the general gist of what I was going through, so I asked another question and clicked on the cards again.
That was the beginning of my adventure with tarot cards. Since then, they've forwarned me about a break-up, warned me what it would be like if I went back to an old boyfriend, told me [correctly] that my next boyfriend would be younger than me, helped me understand why someone was being cold with me, pointed me in the right career direction, and helped me make good decisions while apartment hunting. Right now I'm using them to find something else that got lost last summer. They can be insanely tricky to read due to multiple meanings, or their meaning can be clear as day- the more you use them and sit and think about their meanings, the better reader you become.
Yes, there's a lot of hokiness out there, and you do need to be careful. My ex and I visited a palm reader for kicks last summer in an old, smoky, run-down house in Philadelphia, and she was way out to lunch. On the other hand, I had a tarot card reading a month ago, and she was off on some things [and I knew it], and embarassingly accurate in others. You can find quacks and frauds just as easily in a financial planning company or a law office as you can in a psychic's youtube channel. You can also find people who are grounded and wise in both places. Neither needs to be discounted wholesale, you need to follow your gut- ask a trusted friend for a referral. And of course, you get what you pay for. 400$ or 800$ an hour is going to give you much better quality information from someone with much more experience than someone who charges 50$ an hour.